The setting was the desert encampment of the people of Israel, in the aftermath of the Sin of the Spies. Most of the adult population had been cowered by the insidious and negative reports of the ten so-called leaders, who had been selected by Moses to be a part of the cadre of Spies. The remaining two were Caleb and Joshua. Caleb was moved by a different spirit than the others. Joshua was Moses鈥 prot茅g茅 and under his tutelage. Moses prayed for Joshua not to be swayed by the counsel of the other Spies and Joshua successfully kept his own counsel. The elite group of twelve men was sent by Moses to visit and reconnoiter the Promised Land, in advance of entry by the entire people of Israel. The negative messaging of the notorious ten resonated within the ranks of the nation of former slaves. The ten reported that it would be impossible to go up to the Land, because the people would be unable to overcome the strong defenses. Caleb and Joshua tried in vain to dispute the fake news; but their voices were drowned out. Rather than embracing the opportunity to return to their patrimony, the people balked.
On鈥檚 spouse genuinely cared about him. She listened carefully to him and understood his motivations. She did not taunt him; she empathized with him. She formulated a plan and acted to save him from his self-destructive path.
Korach was not so lucky. His spouse cared only about herself. She egged him on and set him upon his risky and self-destructive course of action. She did this because she hoped it would lead to her becoming the First Lady. She was not mindful of his answers to her vicious taunts or considerate of his circumstances. If she genuinely cared about him, then she would have helped him carefully analyze his situation. A great deal of pain and suffering might have been avoided if only she cared about his fate. She should have been concerned about the risks her husband was taking. She also didn鈥檛 perceive the blowback she and her children might suffer if his putsch failed. In the end, the rebellion was miraculously foiled by G-d and both she and Koarch suffered a unique and unprecedented punishment.
It is a tale of two different households. The varied reactions of each of the couples to the challenges they faced were, in no small part, determinative of the outcomes. The highly stressed and pressurized environment of life often exposes character flaws, but it is also a catalyst for the manifestation of true nobility.
The power of caring is in the execution. On鈥檚 wife cared and her empathy, wise counsel and constructive action saved her husband鈥檚 life.
Go home and show your spouse and family you genuinely care. Do something constructive to help them. It is an awesome thing to do. Why not tell your spouse he or she is awesome. The warm smile it usually generates makes it all worthwhile. Kudos to all the awesome people, who care enough to help another in their time of need and wishing them a hearty L鈥機haim.
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See Proverbs 14:1, which states that the wisest of women builds her house; but folly tears it down with her own hands.
Numbers, Chapter 13 and 14.
Numbers 14:2-4.
Numbers 13:3.
Number 14:24, as well as, 13:16 and 13:30. See also Babylonian Talmud, Tractate Sotah, at page 35a.
Numbers 13:16 and see Rashi and Sforno commentaries thereon.
Babylonian Talmud, Tractate Sotah, at page 34b.
Numbers 13:28-31.
Numbers 13:32.
Number 14:6-9.
Numbers 14:3-4.
Numbers 14:11-13.
Numbers 14:13-19.
Numbers 14:19-23.
Numbers 14:30.
Numbers 14: 31.
Numbers 16:1-4.
Numbers 16:1-.
Number 16:1.
Midrash Rabbah, Bamidbar 18.
Babylonian Talmud, Tractate Pesachim, at page 119a.
Babylonian Talmud, Tractate Sanhedrin, at pages 109b-110a.
Ibid.
Numbers 16:1.
Ibid. See also Babylonian Talmud, Tractate Sanhedrin, at page 109b and Rashi commentary thereon.
Babylonian Talmud, Tractate Sanhedrin, at page 109b.
Ibid and see also Midrash Rabbah, Bamidbar 18 and Midrash Tanchuma, Korach 10. Reference should also be made to the discussion of this term in the American Psychiatric Association鈥檚 Diagnostic and Statistical Manual.
A unique color mentioned in connection with the commandment of Tzizit in Numbers 15:38. The color dye pigment is derived from the Chilazon, an aquatic or semi-aquatic creature. It produces a permanent color said to resemble the blue sky. See Babylonian Talmud, Tractates Menachot (at pages 43b-44a) and Shabbos (at page 75a).
Number 16:30-33
The term Sheol (literally meaning, pit) is equated to Gehinnom (purgatory). See Babylonian Talmud, Tractate Eruvin, at page 19a.
Numbers 16:31-33.